There are so many things that I have learned and so many lessons that well to be honest, I am still learning. Not here to pretend I’m some kind of life guru who has it all figured out and with just 3 payments of 19.99 you can figure it out too. But I thought what a better way to kick off my “blogourny”, (as in my blog journey) then a post about things and lessons I have learned, things I think are important to learn, and well things that I am still in the process of learning. We all start somewhere right?
1. Don’t let social media define your self-worth.
This generation can be summed up in two words: Social Media. I totally get it, because I am in that crowd, and I love social media just as much as the next guy. Seriously, thinking about the amount of time I’ve spent aimlessly scrolling for hours, yes hours, makes me a little sick. But what’s important, is knowing that you are so much more than the likes, hearts, favorites, thumbs up, whatever the next platform will call it than you receive. It doesn’t matter, you write what you want to write, uploaded whatever pictures you want and you do it for you. If you post that pictures of yourself and only get 2 likes, who the heck cares. You post that picture because you like it, because it makes you happy and honestly that’s all that matters.
2. You’ll be so much happier when you stop comparing your life to others.
I’m going to be honest, I struggle with this sometimes and do constantly have to “check myself”. It’s hard, It’s just so stinking hard at times. You wonder at the gym, why can’t you look like that? You wonder at the at the mall, why can’t I have enough money to buy things like that? You wonder while looking at social media, why can’t my life be like that? And then there you go wasting all the time obsessing about others with negative undertones instead of realizing all the great things you have as well. Admire others but don’t get obsessed.
3. Make lists and plans your days.
Honestly, probably my worst habit has always been organization for as long as I can remember. I like to think of my cleaning style as “organized chaos”. Like that stack is my pile of junk and I know exactly what is in that pile of junk and if you dare clean up that pile of junk, well my whole system is going to be thrown and can’t find anything, type of cleaning. And truth be told there has been many weekends where I have just sat on the couch and vegetated when in my head I had a huge list of what I wanted to do and to clean and then Sunday night came a knockin’ and I realized I’ve done nothing of substance, no chores, nothing just basically became a blob of a human. Don’t be a blob, make a list, stick to it, mark it off, and celebrate your accomplishments along the way! Seriously, make all the lists…. grocery lists, shopping list, cleaning list, chores list, etc. Lists are the veins of your exterior life.
4. Quit buying things you can’t afford.
Treating credit cards like an indefinite source of cash flow is not going to get you anywhere except a lot of maxed, worthless pieces of plastic that leaves you with nothing but despair about how the heck you got so many and how many livers you are going to have to sell on the black market to pay them off. All right maybe a wee bit dramatic but the sooner you learn that credit cards are not little magic cards the better.
5. Make a Budget.
And stick to it! My current budget may look a little like chicken scratch on a google sheets page. But hey it works, it makes sense to me and I know all my payments I need to pay, how much I can spend on things, and how much I will be putting into savings now. It puts a lot of things into perspective and it’s key in working towards a financially stable life. The sooner you quit being naive about your money the better.
6. Learn how to wind down and enjoy that time.
Learn how to find ways to wind down and shut off. Everybody is different, find what works for you. For me, I enjoy walking my dog late at night with an acoustic playlist playing and I find it totally relaxes and refreshes me. Everybody gets stressed and worried throughout their day but it’s important to find ways to release and to just enjoy something completely in the moment and not to be in your head 24/7. Trust me, your thoughts are probably super tired of you so give them a break.
7. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than you are.
Not boys, not girls, not friends, not coworkers, not some random person on the streets, not anyone. You know how great you are and you don’t need anybody telling you otherwise. And with that, don’t let anybody tell you how you should feel.
8. You choose your attitude.
My dad told me this when I was very young and for some reason it has always stuck with me and hit me at my core. So for those times when you walk into work in the morning, thinking it’s just going to be the worst day in the history of days remember that if you think it’s going to be a bad day then it probably is because you already have your mind-set that it is. So every little thing that happens that didn’t go your predetermined way is just going to make your day worse and worse. So change that mindset. Wake up thinking it’s going to be a good day and wear that smile big.
9. Take care of yourself.
Get enough sleep at night, eat the right foods, be a little more active. Your body is your temple, it is the most sacred thing you have in your life, so treat it right. Your body wants to do right by you, but remember it takes two to tango.
10. If you are unhappy with something, change it.
Everybody knows the saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result”. So doing the same thing over and over again while being miserable and hating every second of it but expecting one time that it will make you happy you just have to wait it out is ridiculous. And it’s going to make you even more unhappy and frustrated in the long run.
11. You are never wasting money if you are spending it on experiences.
When it comes down to it what you will remember is all the things you did, all the places you went, all the things that made you laugh so hard you cried. You won’t remember that one blue top with the pretty little flowers that you spent probably a little bit too much on at the time. People write biographies on all the things that person did and experienced and accomplished, remember that. So go out to a fun dinner with friends, pay for that concert ticket, buy that vacation you always dreamed of and enjoy every second of it.
12. Doesn’t matter the amount of friends you have, just the quality of friends.
Those friends that you can pour your heart to, laugh for hours about nothing, the ones who know way too many embarrassing stories about you and aren’t afraid to blackmail you with them, those are the friends you need to keep close. Take care of those friendship and most importantly make time for those friendships and don’t let them fade even when you no longer live in the same area.
13. It’s okay to say how you feel.
It’s okay to say no and it’s okay to express your feelings. And remember it’s okay for others to do the same towards you. Nothing good ever comes from bottled up feelings. And why do things you don’t want to do because you just can’t get yourself to say no?
14. Have a hobby.
I feel like hobbies are a kind of workout for your brain. Keeps them young, keeps them engaged, keeps them healthy, and most importantly keeps them happy. Find a hobby you enjoy and dedicate time to it.
15. If it doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t.
Your gut is honestly a lot smarter than people ever give it credit for. And that little pit in your stomach that you’ve tried everything possible to get rid of and tried to ignore, well it is probably there for a reason. Don’t ignore that hoping one day it might fade.
16. Don’t buy something unless it makes you smile.
This goes for anything and everything. Whether its clothes, furniture, decor, even food. Don’t force yourself to eat a salad for every single meal when you hate lettuce. And don’t black out in aisle 9 in Macys and buy everything in sight for no reason other than that you think retail therapy will fix all your problems. Spend money on things that make you smile. It’s as simple as that.
17. You don’t need to over think everything.
Honestly, I can already feel myself over thinking this whole list. Should probably just delete this because nobody is going to like it. Heck, nobody is even going to read it. Who I am to think I should be writing on a blog? Maybe I should just go get a drink out of my fridge, chuck my laptop out of the nearest window and go shed off years of my life in front of my tv…. and that was just 20 seconds of over thinking.
18. Tell the ones you care about you love them.
My parents started doing this to me a while back and I can honestly say nothing puts a bigger smile on my face or lifts up my mood instantly than that. Even if it is just a simple text. Wouldn’t you want to be that reason for someone else?
19. Don’t say you don’t like something if you have never tried it.
So many things I have come to realize that I automatically tell people I don’t like without even ever trying it. Then they ask you why and you stare at them with a blank face because you can’t fathom a good reason and hoping that they will just drop it without ridiculing you. When actually trying it won’t kill you. I try everything now at least once to get a true opinion on it. To be honest, mostly everything I thought I didn’t like, I do indeed now like. Except fish. I will probably never like fish.
20. You may never have life figured out and that’s okay.